Dating successfully requires four skills. The four essential skills for singles are scouting, sorting, screening and testing.
Scouting - Scouting is simply looking out into the world and looking for people that you are attracted to. Other people such as friends and family can do scouting for you as well. Some people you notice will not even be considered, others may require further investigation, which leads to. . . . . . .
Sorting - Sorting is discarding those you automatically know will not be a candidate, and then pursuing further those that might be a possible match for you.
Screening - Screening is checking out whether this person is a potential match for your requirements, needs and wants. For example, if you are thinking the clerk at the grocery store is a potential candidate, and one of your requirements is that she likes kids, one of the screening things you can do is say something about your kids as you go through the line. If she says, “Geez, how can you stand them?" you know right away that this person is off the list. If she says “Oh you are so lucky, you sound like a great dad" you know you can pursue this further.
Testing - Testing is checking to see, through real world interactions and events, if this person lives out what they talk about. For instance, if someone claims to be a compassionate person, and then reams out the waiter for getting the order wrong, you are getting valuable information that you must pay attention to.
When you use these four essential skills for singles, you stand a much better chance of finding someone that could be the love of your life.
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