Most fathers getting divorced hire an attorney tell that attorney all their grievances, and then they sit back and hope for the best as the hired attorney does the work. These are the same fathers that are shocked when they don't win their case. These fathers allow themselves to be minor figures in their own cases, allowing someone else to make their case when they would be more effective speaking for themselves. Time and time again I get phone calls from fathers just like the ones I have described above asking me how to turn their case around. I always tell them one thing:
Dominate your case.
You will be more effective and get more of what you want if you dominate your case. You can do this by taking over control of your case instead of handing over the ‘reigns’ to someone else. Well, if you make a list, and if you stop to think about it, there are many things you can do to prepare your case. Here are some simple steps you can take immediately to start dominating your case.
Dependent upon your specific case, you can:
- Keep a chronological diary of events, starting with the beginning of your relationship and all events that contributed to the current situation;
- Clearly write down exactly what you want and why;
- Obtain sworn affidavits from people that will attest to your abilities as a Father;
- Draft a spread sheet listing assets and debts;
- Close all joint accounts to protect your credit and assets and seek the services of a Pro-Father Attorney if you so choose.
You become the dominant presence in your case. If you can define what you're seeking whether you're bringing a simple motion before the court, going through an evaluation, or working on a trial situation, in 45 days or less you'll be a dominant force to reckon with. The players in the case know who you are, what you do and why they ought to do “business" with you.