In Madrid an experiment showed that “amigos" on Facebook didn't turn out to be friends in real life. The initiators organized a “fiesta" for their Facebook members, but “very few felt like showing their face behind their nick-name. . . 6000 invitations converted into only 500 visitors. " (1)
"I was looking for a girl, but she didn't show up, " (1) lingered someone. It all started with an idea on Facebook, but the company didn't authorize to use their name for the event. In sooner than a month 2500 persons agreed to the idea to contact in real life. . . But in the end less than 10% showed up.
The virtual world is parallel to the real world. How long did it take to completely forget about Second Life? Do we hear anyone about it anymore? A question I think about is this one: If you could do it all over again, what would you do? Second life showed that there is no alternative, no better world only this real world. And this has some virtual mechanisms.
In a car we turn out to be more confident than we really are. That is the same “me, " but using powerful technology. Virtual networking sites and nick-names on the internet give us a tool to do what we normally not do. But it is still the same world.
In the street we have our own life, with real friends, and that doesn't change overnight.
I also have many faces. If you place these in a book you would see pictures, like: me as a writer where I'm different than when playing sports or when on holiday I'm more relaxed. I'm different and more open for friends I know for long and more reserved for others. Everybody will have such a book of faces. Real life and with a virtual nick-name are two different faces.
We see only the outside.
For a change you need to know more about the inside. And for getting real friend too, the outside is only the outside. Communication channels are leveled by a credibility factor (2).
H. J. B.
(1) - Spanish newspaper El Pais, Saturday 13th of September.
© 2008 Hans Bool