For many women pregnancy is not always planned, however, if they decide not to keep the child, they can have peace of mind through the adoption process. This is a good option, and it is in the best interests of both the child and the birth mother. There are adoption agencies that can help you through all the steps, but there are some things you should consider before proceeding.
First of all, in a private independent adoption, you will have the choice to choose the adoptive parents. You will begin by submitting “Dear Birth Mother” letters for birth mothers to review. You will also be able to discuss any additional background information about the birth mother. This is done by a questionnaire that was previously filled out by the adoptive parents. This will include important information such as lifestyle, career, interests, hobbies as well as religion. If it is a closed adoption, the agency can select the parents for you.
When you first contact an agency, you will have to provide information such as your personal and medical history. This will also be the time the agency will find out what you are looking for in prospective parents for your child. A preliminary package will then be sent to you which will include an informational medical package form and a financial worksheet. This worksheet will outline your expenses such as food, rent and clothing. You will have to fill out the paperwork and return it to the adoption agency including a pregnancy verification and medical records. After that information is returned, you will be sent a second package which is more thorough. It will request more information about your medical background for you to fill out and return. You will notice that there will be “Dear Birth Mother” profiles that will closely match your criteria. You will get a chance to review them and choose your top two choices. It is considered a match when both parties both consent to the agreement.
Adoption agencies will try everything to match prospective parents with a birth mother based on the criteria that the adoptive parents have requested. For example, if they want to have little or no direct communication between the two, then the birth mother must feel the same way. If the prospective parents would like continuous communication including being present for the birth of the baby, then the birth mother will feel the same way. Once there is a match, you will have the option of hiring an attorney to provide additional services.
Types of Adoption
The most popular method is an open adoption, which includes a close relationship between the birth mother and the adoptive parents. There will be a chance to exchange information about each other in this method as well. However, a closed adoption is suitable when both parties don’t know each other. No information is exchanged, and is a good choice for people who prefer privacy and confidentiality.
Adoption can be a good choice for an unexpected pregnancy as well as couples who experience infertility issues. Agencies are available to help you every step of the way to create a plan that is right for both parties.