My son is 6 yrs old. He came home the other day from school and stated that he had two girlfriends. I asked him who they were. And he said one was in his class and the other was in the other Kindergarten class. He said one of them asked him to be her boyfriend, and the other he just liked, so she was his girlfriend too. He liked her so he assumed she was his girlfriend too.
That is pretty cute now that he is young, but I am not looking forward to him dating when he gets older, at all. I had the boyfriends in grade school too. Boyfriends meaning, we would just look at each other and smile at each other in class.
As I got older we would hold hands and write love letters to each other. You know, the check yes or no. Sometimes I would go to school dances and we would dance, and you would have to dance an arms length apart back then, and it was fine.
I got my first kiss when I was 14 yrs old. I didn't start dating until I was 15 yrs old. Things sure have changed. My best friend's son has never went on a date, except the junior prom. He hasn't been aloud to go out on a date. He will mope around the house saying no girls like him, and the ones that do, well, how shall I say this, are a little brazen. I guess that is a nice way to put it. He is such a good guy too. He has a big heart, and she has done a wonderful job with those boys. Now his friends date, and they are out messing around with these young ladies. Nothing seems the same anymore.
I was no angel, but I did think about my actions. A kiss meant something back then, it means absolutely nothing now. My son told me he kissed a girl on the lips, I about had a condition. He was at his dads’ at the time, and I was pretty firm in my opinion with him also. Kids need to enjoy their school years. They need to hang out with their friends, dating is fine, if it is just dating. There is no hurry to get serious.
Being buddies can be more fun then being in a serious relationship, that most teens just aren't ready for. You are given a gift, girls and boys.
Once that is gone, you cannot get it back, there is no more first times . Shouldn’t it be with someone you really love, that you’re planning a life with, that you know, for a fact, you will share a life with. That comes with age. Enjoy your school years, the longer you wait to be serious, the better it will be. Be careful, and respect each other.
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