Queen Among Men: Mother's Raising Boys
I never thought in a million years, I would have two boys. Sure, I wanted children, but I specifically wanted a Girl and a Boy. So having to change my mindset after the 2nd Level two Sonogram indicated I was having yet another boy was pretty tough for me.
Now that they are here, life as I knew it will never be the same. Instead of happy hour after work, and all day Saturday shopping sprees with my friends, I find I spend the majority of my time at sporting events. Sure, I'm married, but that's Part 2 of my ezine (stay tune). I never have time for myself, I gained weight, and just overall felt like life had dealt me a bad hand. I found myself yelling at my kids and oftentimes was not fun to be around. Then it hit me, like the Tonka Truck my son ran into my foot, enough is enough! No more would I feel that life with boys is challenging and unmanageable, I will take control and make the rest of their childhood the most incredible experience I possibility could.
Therefore, I developed a list of Top 5 Impact Strategies: Keys to Raising Boys
Impact Strategy 5: Love Him Right Where He Is. Although he is goofy right now, and reminds you of your obnoxious younger brother, enjoy the innocence of his youth. He'll be doing teenage stuff before you know it.
Impact Strategy 4: He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not. Boys tend to be closer to their mother's when they are young. By the tween years (9-13) they form a bond with their Dad or other males in their life that seems unbreakable. Never fear, they always come back around to mom. When the camera is on the MVP, who do they say hi too. . . Mom!
Impact Strategy 3: Advocate For Your Child. You have to always advocate for your son. The educational system tends to be less boy friendly in many instances, therefore, our boys educational needs are going unmet. Attend your PTA meetings, meet your child's teacher, and provide an array of academic enrichment experiences for your son. The dropout rate is alarming in many communities, make sure your son is not another statistic.
Impact Strategy 2: Teach Him a Sense of Self-Worth. We know as women, when we look good, we feel good. The same holds true for boys. Although this is a tough lesson for my boys who would much rather leave the house each morning for school without personal grooming complete. It has to be a boy thing not to wash their face or brush their teeth without being told (everyday). When my boys wear classic clothing, they tend not to be so rough. They don't automatically seek out rain puddles right away, typically they have a sense to stay clean for at least 45 minutes.
Another sense of Self-Worth is surrounding boys with their extended families. My Boys tend to love the attention they receive from the great-aunts and uncles in the family. They love hearing funny childhood stories about their father and I, while looking over and over at the many family photos. The sense of community and family is oftentimes missing from our society. Continue to enriching the lives of your boys by involvement with immediate and extended families members.
Impact Strategy 1: Embrace your Son's active level. Boys tend to be active and all over the place all the time. They seem to learn better by doing an activity, an experiment, and or some type of simulation. Create an environment where boys of all ages and stages can be active, move, and be free to be creative. Give them how to books verse centric fiction. They need boy friendly instruction to keep them motivated and eager to try something new.
Finally, remember that boys are such a joy. They are the next generation of warriors who must be trained properly now to fight the incredible fight that lies ahead. We can't baby them, yes protect them from harmful influences, but allow them experiences so they can learn to make good decisions. Yes, they will make bad ones along the way, but be there to love him through those bad decisions and teach him how to be receptive to receive constructive advise and instruction.
I'm glad I have two boys. This is my chance to instill wholesome values in young men that are destined to be great. For more information on how you can learn more keys to raise successful boys or for speaking engagements, contact Janette Lockridge at firstname.lastname@example.org