The onset of any type of Dementia can be traumatic for everyone. The word itself is scarey for those becoming old. They now have realised there are many various types and causes that can be the cause. They have split Dementia into separate clinics now regonising the differences .
it was different years ago senile dementia was a diagnosis that got you locked away. Dementia is another word for brain damage, this word is significant in how you explain the disease to a patient. My Mother had heart disease, her dementia resulted because strokes and heart problems she had for many years.
Although on warfarin her blood wouldn't clot each time it damaged part of her brain, her dementia was vascular dementia. I noticed things after her bypass nothing serious , muddled up , forgetful . when she would have bad days all that was needed was for her to feel safe to be able to trust, feel secure most important loved. You see the once independent adult the person used to be now finding the simplest thing, like making a cup of tea is difficult. Things like the sequence of boiling the kettle adding milk teabag and sugar. forgetting the next stage there mind blank can be frustrating and probably been happening for awhile.
In my experience I noticed My Mum making a cup of tea only she put a spoon of coffee ( which she never drank) and then sugar and milk. when I asked her why she was having coffee she said it was easier than tea . My advice when your caring for a parent or relative, be patient never correct them, they see what you can't it's real to them, observe them without picking out faults, work around it.
Play along don't make it a big issue , correcting them or alerting them to the confusion will cause them to build mistrust. Withdraw also not engage for fear of saying something wrong. Explain there condition to them .
Show them others the same read out there experiences how they feel, don't use the word dementia to them. Brain damage is more acceptable for someone coming to terms with this. It was important for my mother I done this it made her not fear it there were others the same as her.
Also I had the talk when she sees things she has to tell me. The worst thing is they fight it for fear if they disclose what they can see they will be put in a home or hospital. Explaining everything is important , let them finish there sentance and never laugh or talk over them. If they reply and it had nothing to do with what you said, it's easier to say oh I know or yes. The least they are aware of it is better for them, it will cause them not to engage in conversation and withdraw fearing others have noticed. There will be dark days for them the realisation the mind is dying slowly. Try talk about his or her childhood, parents, look at photographs they evoke happy thoughts make them laugh. Distracting from there mind wandering is beneficial. If possible never leave them alone for long periods of time it is during those times they're at there worst. If you are caring for a adult please seek advice online many users upload diaries of the days they have in order to help and before they forget. Stay strong , trust is key patience, love and understanding are the keys in coping with Dementia.