Dropping your child off at day care can be an emotional event, especially when you first go back to work after your child's birth. Being away from him, even for a short while, is heartbreaking to a new parent. It is very hard to leave your baby every day.
As an infant, most children do not notice when you have left. But as he gets older he will notice it more and it can be very traumatic for him. Sometime between the ages of 8 months and 14 months your child will start to become away of when you are not there. This awareness can lead to separation anxiety, a very normal development stage for most children.
This stage can be very distressing to parents, especially when you have to drop your child off at day care every day. Children can become very upset, crying and throwing a tantrum every time you leave. This behavior can make you feel like the worse parent on the planet. It can also make you feel like your child is suffocating you, which will only add to the guilt you will feel. But do not fear, this stage will usually go near the end of your child's second year.
You are probably wondering what you can do to deal with the trauma of your child's tears now. Here are some tips you can try the next time you drop your child off at day care.
1. Do not make a big deal of leaving. When it is time to drop your child off, just give your child a quick hug and kiss. If you make a fuss over leaving, it will only reinforce his anxiety over your leaving.
2. Try to drop your child off first thing in the morning or after he has napped. Also make sure he has been fed. Children are usually in a better mood when they are full and well-rested.
3. Have your day care provider distract your child with a favorite toy or stuffed animal. Giving your child something else to think about for a few minutes, while you leave the room, could help your child be less anxious about your leaving.
4. Once you have left, if you hear your child crying, do not go back. You will only reinforce the behavior if you keep coming back when they cry. Your child needs to learn that there will be times when you cannot be there.
5. Changing day care providers can cause separation anxiety even in a child that has never displayed it before. Especially if your child is fond of his care giver. You can help your child deal with a new sitter by spending a little extra time with your child the first few days, so he feels more comfortable in his new environment.
Some children get through this stage quickly. Other children might take many months before they do not cry when their parent leaves. By taking a caring and firm position, you can help your child become more independent and less anxious, about being without you.
Dawn Arkin is a stay-at-home Mom who writes in her spare time. This article has been submitted in affiliation with http://www.BabyNameVote.Com/ which is a site for Baby Names .