Each of us grows up in a home with its own traditions. Sometimes there are no holiday traditions, and sometimes there are so many holiday traditions that we actually dread any upcoming holiday.
When we marry, we need to combine the two sets of traditions and create new traditions for our home together. We need to make our home comfortable for not only the two adults but the children we bring into this world.
When I was growing up, we always had a house full of people for every holiday. I remember always being in the kitchen and always helping my mom cook. I’ve met other people who always went somewhere for holidays and brought a cake, or a salad. They do not have the memories of food cooking for hours on end, often for 2 or 3 days straight.
Neither of these is right or wrong, good or bad. They’re just both different memories of holiday time. For me, I loved having guests. My husband was also very happy to have a house full of people for every holiday. As host and hostess you do not enjoy the social time in quite the same manner, however we found that for us this worked.
Over the years I’ve had couples thank me for including them in our holiday celebrations as they wanted to be with others, but just did not wish to take on the task of putting together the event in their home.
When you visit a store like Longs or Sav-On or Rite-Aid, you’ll find decorations for every holiday imaginable. We have purchased turkeys, red, white and blue streamers and numerous other decorations over the years. My own home never had decorations, just lots of food. Both of my kids saw beautifully decorated homes for many holidays and so began asking if we could hang decorations. It was a new tradition for me, but one I loved.
The foods we serve for the many holidays throughout the year can be very different also. I know some folks who serve goose on Thanksgiving and some who serve turkey on Christmas. It’s wonderful if you can combine recipes from both your family and your spouse’s family to create your own food traditions in your home.
Try bringing new traditions into your home and find a wonderful comfortable routine that works for your family.
Audrey Okaneko is mom to two girls. She can be reached at email@example.com or visited at http://www.scrapping-made-simple.com .