When my daughter was a baby, I envisioned staying at home with her and pursuing a work that I would enjoy. We both would have good time, enjoying ourselves and making some extra money at the same time. Not long ago, that time finally came. I went ahead and put my vision into action. I started sewing. I made some fun baby items for my own baby and later on for others too. The orders came in, one after the other, sometimes a few at a time. I got really busy and became a little cranky with my daughter.
In the middle of a project, my daughter would ask me something. I would calmly answer her at the beginning, but then as she asked me the same thing again and again and it made me lose my temper. I felt this strange heat on my face and I realized I was upset.
I thought this was not right. My daughter was just being a kid. Was that the reason I got upset? That was not right! I decided to pause and the perfect image, the one I originally envisioned, came right back into my mind. I was forced to admit that while I was enjoying my work, I was not so happy with myself because my daughter and I were not having a good time.
That was not what I wanted! What I wanted was a serene atmosphere at home with all the time to be with my daughter. But I also wanted that extra source of income, I wanted to achieve something along with raising my child. It was just as I described it. My daughter first, then my project, not vice versa.
So I made myself available for her whenever she wanted my attention, my affection, my love, my time and my help. After all, that is why I decide to stay home at the first place! I decided that whatever concentration I needed at the moment, it can be postponed if my daughter needs me. Just that realization, that decision changed things radically. When I took new orders, I accounted for the fact that I am a stay at home Mom first, and asked for ample time to realize a project. Most people do understand, especially those who have children. We need to prioritize and recognize the most important things in our life. We also need to keep them constantly in our mind as we forget them so easily. And when things get tough, we need to remind ourselves that circumstances do change and better days lay ahead. That is the right attitude to adopt Mom, if you want to keep peace in your home. Once you have that, you can move ahead and achieve more.
About the author:
Sara Mahen is a stay at home Mom who loves sewing and writing .
She owns Oh Petit Bebe , an online boutique featuring her quality handmade baby bedding and accessories.