Imagine a life without physical baggage, emotional pain or those enduring tasks that have kept you from progressing further or thinking on a negative level, the worst of any situation. Wouldn’t you like to be free of all external negative influences? Wouldn’t you like to become that person you have always admired in the people you look up to? Rather than being influenced you become the positive influence, where people love spending time with you because you are so enthusiastic. Imagine meeting that friend or family member you’ve always avoided due to their negative thinking and being able to get them to think or feel positive about themselves. Imagine having that type of affect on everyone you meet.
Imagine knowing yourself so well that you no business deal, interview or personal challenge is too great a hurdle. You are one of them that know what they want and how to get hold of it at the same time, improving other peoples’ lives. Imagine being unafraid to start that business, not being afraid of failure because failure is just a part of success.
Everyone who has obtained success, has done so following failure, Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before be found success in creating the light bulb. The good thing is, we have all been successful following failure from learning to walk to passing our driving test, to success in that job interview. Since making some simple changes in my life I’ve realised my dreams and my dreams are manifesting as I become the person I have always wanted to be. I’ve found my perfect partner and changed careers into one that I had previously only dreamt of. I have managed to double my income every five years, that includes being unemployed for 11 months where I utilised my time immersed in self development books, practicing the theories and bettering myself each and every month that goes by. I’m on my path of living the life I want to live.
Now, I want to pass on my secrets to others because, I did not have anyone help and support me through my learning and believe me, when you have not the support of other like-minded people, life becomes a struggle, so much that in the end you stop trying before you even start only to let life pass you by. My mission is to create a society of successful people, helping and supporting each other becoming the person they have always wanted to become. A genuine support network without politics or negative thinking, almost like an educational establishment, where people can come, join gain the best advice and make the life of their dreams.
When you go through this process may I respectfully suggest dedicating some time to this process by doing the homework, daily practices (rituals) as well as set-time with discipline and persistence because, mark my words, your life will change how you want it to be, but first you have to change. . Only when your comfort zone increases, will your wealth increase. Let me show the methods you can use to “make the rest of your life, the best of your life”.
Step One – Realising where you truly are at Before you do anything, you need to take stock of where you are and why you are feeling how you are feeling. Before I made any changes I needed to truthfully address where I was at the time without blaming others or disrespecting myself. This was one of the single most difficult things I had to go through as I had always found a way to blame other factors for where I was in my life, for example: The economy, The government, My employers, My parents, My teachers, The bullies from my childhood It’s easy to blame these external factors but it takes much more to look at yourself in a constructive manner.
It was not until I was told by a number of senior monks the single most powerful message, “the more you become self-realised, the more your worries will disappear and you will know your purpose in life… before you externally manifest a blissful life, you have to become blissful from within” Many of the most successful people in the have the same philosophy. Jim Rohn the World famous business philosopher stated, “Success is not something you pursue, it is something you attract by becoming an attractive person. " I failed many times during my first steps to become this person but as soon as I stopped looking for someone to blame and started to point the finger at myself, I began to make real progress, then everything fell into place. First things first, get yourself a journal, not a computerised one, but one that you can physically write. You’ll need to write with pen on paper is because we are about to embark on a journey. The answers to some of the questions can be written, drawn or in the form of flowcharts and any other way you express yourself. For further details on writing a journal, please refer to my article, ‘keeping a journal’. know thyself: Now, I want you to take a moment to answer a few questions, please answer following a process of deep reflection and in a sober mind. By answering honestly and thoughtfully you take the first step in understanding your strengths and weaknesses and improving your life. “Who am I truthfully, without any external influences, who am I? “What makes me tick, excited, sad, happy, passionate, etc?” What are my values? What are my beliefs? “What are my strengths and weaknesses?” “What do I really want out of my life?” “If I was to die tomorrow, would I have died knowing I have fulfilled my life’s ambition?” “Knowing what I now know, would I have made the same choices as I did five years ago or would I get into it again today?”[Brian Tracy – Eat that frog] These questions can be applied to a number of aspects to your life, including relationships, work, business, sports, financial assets etc. The moment I asked myself the above questions, answered honestly and acted upon it, my life undertook measurable changes. I stopped being in debt, I began to work on my career, I lost that excess fat and I promised myself to find bliss in life (that thing that gets me out of bed on a Monday with the same excitement as if it was Christmas day). Today, I am so grateful and happy to state, I’ve stayed at the same waist size as I achieved five years ago, my energy levels are through the roof on a daily basis, I help teenagers learn about taking responsibility of their lives and I jump out of bed by 4:30 because I am so excited of what the new day can bring. All of this change simply from being honest at answering these questions and having that burning desire to change my life for the better. When I first started to consider changing areas of my life I had many thoughts and fears of which I’m sure will also experience; What will happen if I follow my heart when it doesn’t seem practical? I’m safe where I am why should I take the risk? Shall I give up the safety predictable existence of my 8-4 job? What if I do not generate enough income as I do in my current role? What if I fail? What if I find I don’t enjoy it after all? What will my friends and family say? Where would I start? It’s too easy to let these fears engulf you, but by playing it safe you’ll never reach your true potential and discover your purpose. What is my purpose? By now you must be excited, all ‘fired-up’ and ready to go, my advice would be not to give up your day job just yet, as you have to go through a process of getting to know yourself before any external action is taken. This practice will be a huge time saving exercise. Like Abraham Lincoln stated “If I had six hours to chop down a tree, I'd spend the first four hours sharpening the axe" meaning we get busy without any big steps, we immerse ourselves in a journey of self realisation, where we get reacquainted with ourselves again. Some of us would catch-up with ourselves from when we were teenagers, some of us (like me), from when we were in our infancy. It is not necessary for us to relive our hurts and pains, the best way to view this process is as if we are watching ourselves on TV, which would get us out of the situation and observe it externally. Think of it as a cinema screen, where you can walk out at anytime. You can either be watching this film clip from the cinema audience or (perhaps if observing a severely painful past memory) from within the projector, where you are in a well-lit room and can stop the projector at anytime. The main objective of this process is to get to know who you really are and become acquainted with your true self, become fascinated with who you are, embrace that you because that is where you are going to start with. The conversation: If one is starting a journey, one has to know where s/he is starting from in order to plan how one is to get to his/her destination or goal. So take some time out and write down on paper a conversation you are to have with yourself, just as if you wanted to find out more about a very close and dear friend you want to help. Once you have asked these questions, you’ll already be in a profound and a more realised state (if you haven’t had such a moment then you have not gone deep enough). Some may require the assistance or guidance of an external professional that knows what they are doing, is impartial in every way and understands your objectives for this exercise. Once this process has been completed, you then move onto the next stage of the self-realisation process, ‘if money or time was not an issue, you had all the resources and support, age/ height/ nervousness or our current circumstances were not an issue. . . what would you get into?’ Take some time out to go deep within your new found self, just like all the successful people today dared ask ‘What is your purpose?’ Once I know my purpose, how do I plan my journey? May I take this opportunity to congratulate you on knowing who you are, you know you are within the top 10% and the majority of those at the tip of the triangle are the leaders of the World today. You have just overcome the biggest obstacle in your life, your own self. Now let’s discuss the next step, planning your journey. Once you know what your purpose is, then project yourself in the future to a point when you have acquired your purpose or goal, you are living that dream, you’re doing that thing you wanted to pursue your whole life. Now in this frame of mind, think and write down: Where are you? What are you doing? What do you hear? What do you smell? What do you look like? What do your surroundings look like? Where are you living? How are you dressed? Use your senses of seeing, hearing, feeling and doing, what is that like? Then look into how your friends and family look or act towards you, the same ones that thought you were mad to pursue this purpose are now proud to see how far you’ve come and at your success. Take some time out and write in your journal what you have just experienced, be specific, write in detail what you have achieved and overcome to get to your future self. Now, come back to today and think, if you carried on doing what you are currently doing, where would your life be in the next 5-10 years? Compared to how happy you will be when you follow your purpose in life. Dependent on your goal, I’m guessing you would have already achieved it or well on the way of achieving it. I had a similar experience, and I planned my 5-10 year goals, I was shocked to find almost all of them achieved within three years, it’s an amazing realisation how focusing all our energies in one direction seems to propel us forward to meeting the right people, right circumstances and the opportunities come to us once we set a definite purpose. I cannot emphasise enough how important this process is. .