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How To Re-Enter The Dating Scene After You Had Genital Herpes


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I found out I had genital herpes in January. My boyfriend got a blood test and he tested negative. Recently, we broke up . I'm sure I'm not ready to start dating again yet, but when I am I'm not sure how to go about it. I know I have to tell my partners and I will continue to be careful. Can I date those who don't have herpes? Will they be willing to date me?

Many people with herpes have similar experience at the beginning. The following information shows you how you can unlock your own natural confidence and strength so you feel really comfortable giving ‘The Talk’. Now that you know you have genital herpes, you're out of the dating game, right? Absolutely not. There's no reason to stop looking for love and fun.

Genital herpes doesn't detract from your many desirable qualities, which have drawn people to you in the past and will continue to make you a great catch.

Broaching the Topic of Genital Herpes

The first date after your diagnosis may seem a little strange, however. If you hope to be *** intimate with your date at some point, you may feel like you're keeping a nasty secret. If you are one to be candid with people, you'll want to blurt it out. Don't. There are some things you should reveal about yourself right away - for example, that you're married, or that you're just in town for the week - but some things are better left for the appropriate moment.

It's up to you to decide the right time to tell your date that you have genital herpes. Follow two rules: First, don't wait until after having sex. Second, don't wait until you're just about to have sex - in which case the attraction may be too strong for either of you to think rationally and act responsibly.

If in the past you tended to start a new relationship with sex, you now might want to change your approach. It might be better to break the news about your herpes to someone who has already grown attached to you. Kissing, cuddling, and fondling are safe, so you don't have to tell before you do that. But use your best judgment as to how physically intimate you want to get before telling. One thing could lead to another, and you might find yourself in an awkward situation.

Dealing With Rejection Anyone who dates should be prepared for rejection. The person you're seeing may beat a hasty retreat when he or she finds out about your genital herpes. If you get the “I just want to be friends" talk after telling your sweetheart you have herpes, consider this: He or she may have already been looking for a way out, and herpes was as good an excuse as any. What's more, anyone who disdains you or humiliates you for having herpes was never worth your while.

Keep dating, and you will find someone who wants to be with you regardless of your herpes status. There are certainly some who wouldn't mind keeping the intimacy level just short of doing things that could transmit the virus. And of those people, it's likely that at least one will come around, and say, “Hey, I understand there's a risk, but I'm crazy about you, so I'm willing to take it. "

Depending on your dating style, you might date people with herpes, if you want to avoid having to discuss it. Herpes doesn't define you, but judgmental people will make judgmental decisions. On the herpes dating sites, you do not worry about being rejected or discriminated, but often find understanding and comforting. Check reviews of the top Herpes Dating Sites , see which Online Dating Site is best for you.

David H Smith is a life coach. He has created Herpes Dating Help as a uniquely practical life coaching service, introducing you to those changes you can make that will help you to feel relaxed about herpes, maintain and grow your self confidence.


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