If you always find yourself dating the wrong type of man and you are wondering why, then I need to let you in on a little secret… you are looking in all the wrong places. It surprises me to know that so many young women expect to find the perfect man in a nightclub or “out on the pull” on a Saturday night. Some of the same young women will meet a man they know nothing about and take the him home, hoping to gain a long term relationship in return for a night of passion… it is not likely to happen – that’s not to say that it is impossible, but it is very unlikely.
We have a tendency to search for the wrong things, in the wrong places. Many people end up with the wrong partner because they see what they want to see in that person, failing to see the things that they do not want to see. When you approach finding a real man with a more nonchalant attitude, you will notice that you are able to read people better. It is no accident that you find what you want most when you stop looking so hard. Where do YOU expect to find a real man?
If you are always dating the wrong type of man, maybe it is because you are not interacting within the social groups in which the right men can be found. If you honestly believe that the right man for you is out there somewhere, you should work out in your own mind WHO he is. If you don’t know who he is, how can you find him? Another important thing to bear in mind is that like attracts like…
In most cases, you probably want to be with someone who shares the same interests and passions as you, someone with whom you have a lot in common. So, my advice to you is this: Do the things you enjoy doing, enjoy spending time with other people who enjoy those things (men and women. ) With time, friendships will bloom. Relationships grow out of friendships. Approaching your interests in this way carries other benefits with it. Not only are you more likely to find your ideal partner, you are more likely to develop new friendships and enjoy life more because you are doing the things you love to do. You will also find that you attract more people into your life because you are much happier.
I'm spilling the beans on my own journey to find a real man- and you are invited to my no holds barred blog to find out exactly what i am learning! You can read about my journey at http://www.wantarealman.com