How many people just don't believe that there is such a thing as “AD/HD"?
Usually, they blame bad parents with no disciplining skills for the hyperactivity. Some of them just say that teachers can't control their classrooms anymore because there's no longer corporal punishment. Others point to too much sugar in our diets as the culprit. Surely it's sugar that makes AD/HD kids behave the way they do! In fact, all these things in combination are probably the root cause. Right?
Oh, and you may have also heard the one about being dropped on your head as a baby or having some other jarring trauma to your skull causing your AD/HD. Yet, they can't account for the fact that the majority of people with AD/HD cannot point to any injuries of this type at all.
What's the deal?
Scientists have seen a decreased activity in regions of the brain that control attention and activity through PET (positron emission tomography) scans, and linked it to an inability to process glucose properly, but they have also studied the correlation between AD/HD and genetics. You didn't have bad parents. Your teachers weren't all spineless wimps, and your head probably never met concrete or any other immovable object.
Twenty-five to thirty-five percent of AD/HD people have parents with AD/HD. In the general population, only 4 to 6% of people with AD/HD developed it with no genetic correlation. Maybe it was a very distant ancestor that barely even shows up in their genes anymore. Who knows? You just got it, and you shouldn't hate yourself for it. In fact, you should consider yourself fortunate. As I see it, AD/HD actually gives you an advantage. You're just smarter, faster, and your brain may be the human brain's next evolution. At least, that's what some scientists think. You're ahead of the game, not behind it.
Some AD/HD people find that medication helps them, though I personally don't use it and I'm ADHD. Coming up with ADD-friendly systems helps me, as does knowing where I'm strong and where I'm weak. I have a great ability to come up with ideas and I use that to make my living. It works! You need to find out what you're good at and exploit those areas of your personality.
Just don't mope around thinking that AD/HD makes you “disabled. " You're probably highly intelligent, and you have the ability to do many things at the same time. Plus, you're probably very creative. Your exuberance for projects even tends to drive people around you because you're just so inspired. You're awesome and don't even know it.
When you're in grade school and all the kids think of you as “the boy who's always getting punished" or the girl who “can't sit still, " it's very difficult to have a great self-image. And if you have adult AD/HD, you're one of the lucky 15% that continue to have AD/HD for the rest of your life. If you don't get to work on realizing what you're good at, you probably have crappy relationships, problems at work, and spend a lot of money that you shouldn't be spending. Whatever negative behaviors that AD/HD causes in you have to be addressed. You need to figure out how to cope with them so that you can move on and be a happier person. Find people that will support you, and they might be online or offline.
Other people who have AD/HD will understand what you're going through because they've been there themselves. They may be able to give you a whole host of solutions that you'd never think of on your own. When there's a good mix of people who have controlled their symptoms with others who are just learning to will help. That's not to say that you shouldn't also seek professional help and medication, if it's right for you. But you need to feel better-about yourself and the whole world around you. Stop being down on yourself. It's probably the worst thing you can do! Remember, you had nothing to do with AD/HD. You didn't ask for it. It just found you. Work with it, and see how you can make it the best thing that ever happened in your life.
Tellman Knudson is CEO of OvercomeEverything, Inc. and a certified hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner who has helped many clients with ADD symptoms . Visit his comprehensive library of ADD information and join the forum at InstantADDSuccess.com (http://www.instantaddsuccess.com )