When you're the parent of a child with ADHD, you have a responsibility to learn all you can about ADHD and to try and help your child learn to work within the framework of their own brains. Everything may be moving much faster for them. You may be a linear thinker and can't quite understand what it's like in their world. And the worst possible scenario is one in which everything has been running smoothly because you have figured all this out, and suddenly, there's change.
For example, let's say that you have a 12-year-old with ADHD, and that you need to know the best way to help her adjust to blending with a new husband or wife, and moving at the same time. That's a hard time for any kid, but it's even harder for kids with ADHD in some ways, and much easier in others.
We could go on about this for a really, really long time but let's just break it down to just the bottom line, if we possibly can.
You know, there are different kinds of people who obviously deal with change in different ways. You know, some people with ADD or ADHD thrive on constant movement, constant change, moving around, things changing all the time.
Then there are some people – and Stephanie is one of those – who prefers to have things – to have a little notice before everything changes. Some of us have even been known to break down in tears if they come home at night and find out that someone in their family has changed all the furniture around in the house. For some of us, any kind of change can be just devastating.
With certain kinds of structure, which seems to be the exact opposite of what an ADD person actually wants, but with certain routines that are common, that are able to be put into play every single day-like how the child wakes up and has breakfast and gets dressed and brushes the teeth and just some real familiar types of routines-can help to facilitate a feeling of groundedness so that when change does occur, as it obviously will, then at least the person has some things that they can consistently do that they're comfortable with doing.
Certain things you want to do on a regular basis, and certain things you want to change to keep things interesting.
A 12-year-old will show you exactly what those are. Just look at the things that they do every day in a similar way, and keep some of those replicated to keep some consistency going to act as an anchor. For instance, if they go to bed at 10 o'clock at night, keep that same bedtime in your new surroundings. Or, if they play baseball every Saturday, get them onto a new team where you're relocating and keep that same Saturday routine. Or make sure the piano teacher shows up on the same day, things like that. Allow everything else to free flow. If you can do these things, if you can keep some kind of routine going for them, and let other things happen as they will, you'll find that your ADHD child will do very, very well.
Tellman Knudson, certified Hypnotherapist and ADHD driven, is CEO of Overcome Everything, Inc. Stephanie Frank, also an ADD person, is an internationally known speaker, entrepreneur and author of “The Accidental Millionaire. " Do you or does a child have ADD - ADHD? Take the ADD test at InstantADDSuccess.com .