Throughout our lives we collect memories, some happy and others sad. These experiences affect how we develop and think about ourselves. As hard as it might be to believe, how we respond to those memories affects what happens to us.
We don’t purposely think about these past events, but they do affect our thoughts on a sub-conscious level. As a result, they can have a drastic impact on how we conduct ourselves, how we deal with adversity and how successful we become.
We’ve all had happy memories. Those are the ones we want to linger forever. The more happy memories, the happier we become and the better we feel about life and our role in it. For some, sad memories linger far too long and they can influence our happiness or lack of it.
Interesting facts have emerged recently through ongoing research into what makes us happy and what makes us sad, and how it affect our lives.
There is a universal energy force that is affected by each one of us by how we think and the energy we feed into the system. How it affects us is determined by how we think, like the old adage, “you get out what you put in”. If we constantly think positive, more happiness will be sure to follow and if we focus on the negative, the general outcome is unhappiness.
Some people have many bad memories related directly to unpleasant and painful events in our lives. It’s not easy to forget the pain and what it has done to us over time. One bad event after another can do significant harm to our ego and sense of worth and happiness.
Research has produced evidence that people who suffer ongoing bad experiences attract more of the same because of their attitude towards them. There are people who can jump ahead of the pain and remain optimistic and positive, while others become increasingly pessimistic and negative. They reach the point that nothing seems to go right, despite their efforts. Eventually, they just give up.
Their lives have become overwhelmed with depression and sadness. The longer this depression lasts, the more difficult it is to be positive about anything, and the more difficult it is to recover.
More often than not, the perpetual bad events are “created” by our reactions to them and whether we can truly overcome them and stay positive.
Positive, optimistic people somehow manage to overcome adversity, including even the worst catastrophes, with amazing success. Nothing gets them down for long. It boils down to how they think about themselves, life in general and their experiences in it. In effect, what they do is surround themselves with “angels” – those positive helpful universal forces that attract only good and enable them to move on and be successful.
Negative, pessimistic people, on the other hand, are burdened by the negative energy that comes from their negative response to life. They often dwell on the mounting “bad luck” that seems to fill their lives, thereby attracting more of the same. Without meaning to, they surround themselves with “ghosts” from their past and add more “ghosts” with every bad experience.
Powering up our thinking with positive energy is proven to have a major impact on our lives, but it has been getting a bad rap from disbelievers of this powerful force. Positive thinking is more than just thinking everything will work out, when realistically this is not always possible. Bad things do happen to everyone and they don’t always turn out well.
What positive thinking truly means is to think positively about who we are, how we have grown and developed, and being happy with ourselves as a whole. It means believing in our ability to handle any adversity that comes along and use that self-assurance to work through the bad things that happen to us.
Positive thinking means having confidence in our abilities to recover, move on and be happy. Rather than thinking about the negative outcome that’s sure to happen, think about the potential good instead.
Surrounding ourselves with “angels” instead of “ghosts” will attract the positive energies in the universe and with them will come a happier life filled with great potential.
Sylvia Dickens is an award-winning journalist who has struggled and overcome , depression, panic and anxiety. Formerly with the Canadian Mental Health Association, she's written, “A Guide to Teenage Depression & Suicide" and offers several books to cure panic quickly and without medication, along with other popular topics. You can learn more at www.book-titles.ca . Her travel magazine offers family vacation getaway ideas for fun and relaxation.