I'll define what I mean by these terms. “The Controller" is a job seeker that is ruled by doing everything right. He/she has read all of the appropriate books, done a good job composing a resume, but is still unemployed.
"The Controllee" has also read all of the best books about the job search, has a credible resume, but is still without work.
What can each of them do to make their job search campaign: WORK.
The person who is controlling what they think is a good campaign is not stopping to: Polish and have great inter-personal skills; doesn't send a thank you note and doesn't ask for the job.
The person who is being controlled
by the process needs to assess their campaign and see what they are leaving out. Is their networking going well, is their sufficient follow-up? Is there room made for the unexpected and spontaneous? (Flaws that the controlling person needs to be aware of too. )
These are my remedies. Plan, plan, plan, follow-up, send out thank you cards, give as much as you take; and look at most rejections with a bag of salt. By all means have some fun with the whole danged search! Flexible people get most jobs.
Marilyn J. Tellez, M. A.
Certified Job & Career Transition Coach