I travel by bus everyday and I hear a lot of one-sided conversations! This time it was a obviously very upset young man talking to someone about:
"Yeah there I was. . . just got through my finals. . . going to job interviews, calling my girlfriend to keep her up to date on how things were progressing. . .describing the interviews in the evening.
Yes, we moved in together a couple of months before the baby was due. . . she was so excited about the new apartment and we were both gaga over our new baby girl . . .
So what happened? I'll tell you what happened. . . she went crazy on me. . . I drove up to the apartment parking lot to bring her some things from the store. . . no I asked her to come down to the parking lot because I had just time enough to get to an appointment and all hell broke loose.
She made such a scene that the apartment manager called the cops . . . what a mess. . . I don't want us to break up.
She was screaming that I don't care about her. . . I don't care about our baby. . . I don't care about our relationship. . . she's through with me, all I care about is myself, all she has to listen to is me talking about my last interview, my next interview and how great they all think I am.
I don't care about her, I don't care how she's feeling.
Man I think she's through with me . . . Yeah we went to stay with her mother. . . I don't know what I'm going to do.
We've been going together all through college, I don't know what got into her. . . All I know is I don't want to break up!
But she won't talk to me!
At this point I imagined a scene from a TV commercial where I would pull this wonderful book out of my bag, tap the young man on the shoulder and say to him “Here's what you can do. . . read The Magic of Making up'
But in real life although we're subjected to listening to someone pour out their intimate problems for everyone close by to listen to and still feel that we have no right to interfere. . . Too bad!
Tdub's book ‘The Magic of Making Up’ has an answer to every one of the questions the ‘cellphone young man’ might have. . .
Do you make these mistakes with your ex?
Do you try to convince her that you are the love of her life'
Do you apologize profusely for everything?
Do you promise to change for good this time?
Do you try to get her to see that it wasn't really your fault?
Do you even beg with her to take you back?
I'd like to tell him T dub that says with every word he utters, regardless of his intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant she might become.
Tdub says “know that this is not your fault! You weren't taught about couple relationship in school. . . maybe you weren't taught that by your parents either.
What this young man could learn from TW Jackson's ‘The Magic of Making Up’ could serve him not only in his present emergency but as a continuing roadmap for him and his girl to have a happy relationship.
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