"There is no use trying, " said Alice; “one can’t believe impossible things. "
“I dare say you haven’t had much practice, " said the Queen. “When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast. " Lewis Carroll
Regardless of what your mind may propose serenity is not impossible.
Serenity is a product of humility. False pride, vanity, and self-pity destroy humility and therefore diminish our capacity to meet our daily lives with the peace and clarity that accompany serenity.
When I speak of false pride I do not mean a reasonable or healthy self-respect. I am referring to the false sense of oneself that stems from an embellished sense of achievement and the defining of oneself within the limits of that achievement.
I know many people - including myself - who have achieved wonderful things but then became stuck because they constantly compared themselves to something in the past. It’s the same as living off of a good reputation but no longer making progress or doing what is needed for growth in the present or future.
How many of us think that our bodies are the source of what we have or do not have? Using our bodies as the reason we do or do not have a relationship is an act of vanity. I know people who rely solely on their looks and are terrified of growing old. I also know people who believe that they do not look good enough to attract love and companionship.
Where vanity has to do with one’s appearance, serenity stems from knowing who you are and your relationship to that which lives beyond the physical. Some call it a Higher Power, God, Supreme Being, or The Universe.
Self-pity is self-indulgent. It is a product of dwelling on one's own sorrows or misfortunes. This keeps us stuck in the dead, boring, discouraging, limiting past and destroys our serenity. False pride, vanity and self-pity keep us from being humble enough to ask for help, strength, courage and support from whatever we feel our Higher Power to be.
To move into serenity, we must accept that there is a Higher Power at work in our lives. Humility opens us up to that Higher Power because it acknowledges that the body can never contain the spirit.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all else will be added unto you. Mathew 6-33
Whenever I am in the presence of a being grounded in serenity, one of two things occurs. I either feel myself in balance and peaceful or I become painfully aware of how out of whack I have become.
Many times we become adversarial simply because we do not get our way. Accepting that we do not always get exactly what we thought we wanted, and staying open to new experiences assists us in meeting life with a fresh enthusiasm.
Reading passages from inspirational books, listening to soothing music, prayer, walking in nature are all ways we can restore our serenity.
One of the most powerful tools for maintaining my serenity is to daily inventory my thoughts and actions. I usually do this at night before falling into meditation and sleep.
Making a list of everything we resent but cannot control and then mentally forgiving ourselves, and others, is a therapeutic exercise. Forgiveness releases us from the anger, frustration and resentments that keep us imprisoned in negativity.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi
We sometimes feel that we cannot summon up the strength to forgive. Quite often, even forgiving myself seems to be a copout. When we feel this way, we must remember that progress—not perfection—is the goal. I ask my Higher Power for help and the courage to forgive. Through humility I am reminded that we are all human and that we all make mistakes.
Love and encouragement are powerful allies. Wherever you are, whatever you are facing, remember that; “You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here. "- Anonymous
Begin to live in the possibility of serenity. You owe it to yourself and to those you love.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
- The Serenity Prayer
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Matt Garrigan is a motivational speaker, the founder of LifeForce Educational Corporation and the creator of The Liberty Experience Training , The Mastery Course and the Awakened Potential Course. Matt has been a pioneer in the human potential movement since 1980. His exceptional goal oriented coaching techniques, expanded consciousness training, awareness counseling, integrity coaching and spiritual guidance have assisted thousands of individuals in transforming the quality of their lives. As a motivational speaker Matt’s ability to uniquely integrate many different philosophies and practices, combined with his steadfast commitment to empower people, makes his work a potent, life enhancing experience that sheds light on new possibilities in communication, relationship, prosperity and enlightenment.
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