It is tough having to deal with someone who abuses you and even more so when the person is a part of your family.
If the verbal and other forms of mental abuse begin to get really serious and even approach physical abuse, then the issue can become legal. I have heard that some states and jurisdictions are trying to pass legislation that disallows any form abuse against Older persons. However, unfortunately just about all laws do not take into account verbal family and other environmental settings so you've got to learn how to handle bullies by yourself, as a senior citizen, for your own happiness and well-being.
Most people lack the fundamental communication skills to deal with a family member. That is especially noted in seniors, with the common results to:
1. Endure the intimidation in fear thinking their position in the family structure is at risk if they address their family about the problem.
2. Face their family about the problem but do so incorrectly. It's quite common for the problem to then intensify.
Enduring the Bullying by family member and others in the community.
The absolute last thing you want to do when being intimidated by anyone is accept the abuse. This particularly important when a senior citizen is being harassed.
You have got to stick up for yourself in an assertive manner otherwise your confidence, happiness, and in this situation, your daily life will suffer. People who receive aggressive behavior that is not correctly handled have been known to develop serious physical problems such as strokes, heart attacks, suicide, migraines, escalated stress levels, insomnia, and terrifying nightmares. It is very important for a senior citizen that is being bullied in one way or another to speak out and get some help. One person, who will remain anonymous, often dreamt her family member or maybe a socalled friend pointing a gun at herself so they could not enjoy their day to day existence. .
The first listed reaction to a intimidation is a passive response. This is especially true when considering the problem with Older persons. You ignore your own person needs while the family around happily tramples over you with total immunity. After all, grandpa or grandma have had their life and should just settle down in anonyminity.
The most common reason for accepting intimidation from others is the fear of repercussions if you stick up for yourself. In a life situation and especially with someone who has either real or assumed power, you probably do not defend yourself in fear of losing your possible position with the family and community. This fear is real because when most people stick up for themselves, they do so in an aggressive manner causing negative results which will often make the situation even worse.
These passive people ignore their own needs, are dominated by others, and live in massive amounts of frustration as their anger is bottled up inside. They do not have the effective speaking skills to address the problem thinking they must accept what happens and live with the intimidation hoping the abusive person or persons stops their intimidation.
It's a win for the bully and a loss for you.
But, wake up, seniors . . . you do not have to take the intimidation and implication from anyone. Just remember, you are a person and deserve all the benefits of being in this life. Stand up for yourself and let it be known that you will not take the abuse any longer. If you feel you are being harassed by anyone, either a family member or someone else, welcome to the blog that addresses this phenomenon and let us know what is happening in your life.
The only help that can be offered is just a way to vent with your feelings. Go ahead...you will feel much better..